Sentence 1He hit me .... is a blame statement. "I got him to hit me" would be responsible, Or, "I'm so incredibly skilled at starting arguments and fights, using mostly my non-verbal skills, that I goaded him into hitting me. I know he is so emotionally immature that he has no choice." Or, "I'm addicted to abusing and to being abused. I lie, saying I don't want abuse in my life yet I attracted and still hang around an equally abusive person. Then, by communicating covertly, abusively, non-verbally the way I do, I can get them to abuse me physically; in that way I draw attention away from my own anger and violent patterns and get them in trouble." Note: Insert he/she where appropriate. |